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Sex and power --is it coming down to 'here' and 'there?'

I gasped at the sight of DSK facing the crowds of maids shouting "Shame on you!"as he walked into court in Manhattan. Wow. In past weeks, we've read of France having "an Anita Hill moment" and of how the U.S. treats sexual harassment v. how the French see it.  Let's not feel wildly advanced yet.

As recently as 2005, I took to tape recording the absolutely disgusting, sexual comments of a man who held a top position at an international firm. We sat in glass-walled splendor with the sweep of Biscayne Bay beneath us. I had been hired as a private detective for several cases and he was my "handler." I dreaded the meetings in his office and I dreaded it when he insisted we go across the street for lunch or coffee. At one point, I thought the venue made it easier for him to ask me what I liked in bed or to tell me what he wanted to do to me, but I was wrong. He was the same in his office.  I made it clear I expected to discuss the facts of the present case and nothing more. I suggested conference calls instead of meetings. Like the women at IMF, I positioned my chair a certain way then I stopped wearing dresses. Pathetic.  Weak and pathetic! I am disgusted at myself as I write this: he had the power and nothing I said changed anything.  I needed the work and I needed the money. I went to a lawyer and asked what I could do. I was told I could do nothing because I CHOSE to work for this firm, this man. I was an "independent contractor" and not his hired employee.

The work itself, the cases were fascinating.  Undercover,  mostly. Intelligence gathering. I worked hard, did things he told me he did not think anyone could do. I made him look really good which is what I want to do when I'm hired by any company but I used to leave the office and drive home and take a shower.  It's not over with him because someday I will write his story.

My point is: let's not get smug 'over here' when he talk about how 'enlightened' we are about sex and power and how we regard harassment and rape. Not yet.


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